old wives tale? do read. there's great wisdom in this!
A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."
Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."
Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen." Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."
MORAL: Have you ever realised that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?
There is a wise saying: "The person who loves others will also be loved in return."
God might be trying to work in another person's life through you.
Friday, December 02, 2005
Clinton visits Kinniya
Mr.Clinton speaks to a group of tsunami affected Kinniya fishermen and farmers. Minister Ms Ferial Ashraff and Mr.Leelananda , Government Agent are also seen
[TamilNet, November 29, 2005 18:13 GMT] United Nations Special Envoy, President Bill Clinton, Tuesday visited Kinniya division, which had registered highest number of deaths and displacement due to tsunami disaster in the Trincomalee district last year. During his two hour-stay in Kinniya President Clinton visited tsunami destroyed areas and consoled the victims, sources said.
Clinton arrived at 2.25 p.m. by a special helicopter with Ms Ferial Ashraff, a cabinet minister in the UPFA government. Mr. Mohamed Najeeb Abdul Majeed, a non-cabinet minister and also one of the four parliamentarians of the Trincomalee district, Mr.S.Rangarajah, Chief Secretary of the North East Provincial Council (NEPC), Mr.K.G.Leelananda, Trincomalee Government Agent, Mr.M.Ashraff, Kinniya Divisional Secretary and representatives of UN agencies received President Clinton at the Kinniya playground where the helicopter landed, sources said.
Thereafter President Clinton was taken to a house in Annal Nagar, a Grama Sevaka division in the area along the coastline where he talked to the members of the affected family. He then went further inside the village and met a group of Tamil and Muslim fishermen and farmers. He was briefed about their plight after tsunami disaster, sources said.
Mr. Clinton then walked to the ruins of the tsunami destroyed Al-Matheena Mosque. Forty-one Muslim children who were attending Arabic classes in the mosque on December 26 last year were consumed by tsunami waves. Mr. Clinton consoled the two children and the teacher who escaped death in tsunami. President Clinton observed one-minute silence at the site in the name of children and others died in the disaster, sources said.
Finally he visited the tsunami-destroyed Kinniya hospital where Dr.T. Thavakodirajah, Deputy Provincial Director of Health Services, Dr.Sameem, Medical Officer of Health (MOH) and Dr.Nazeer, District Medical Officer received Mr. Clinton and briefed him on the forty patients and others who were found dead in and around the hospital on December 26 after tsunami, sources said.
Mr. Clinton then addressed a press conference held in the premises of the destroyed Kinniya hospital. Mr. Clinton said he will be visiting Sri Lanka again in the near future and will be submitting a report on tsunami relief regarding Sri Lanka to the Secretary General of United Nations.
Mr. Clinton said he met with Sri Lanka's President and that Mr Rajapakse had told him that he is giving peace process top priority and that he is committed to taking the peace process forward.
Mr. Clinton left Kinniya by air around 5 p.m. to Colombo.
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Respond with love to those who might otherwise annoy you, and suddenly the annoyance is gone. You'll both be better off.
Respond with patience to situations that might otherwise make you frustrated, and suddenly the frustration is gone. In its place will be energy for positive achievement.
Respond with understanding to things that might otherwise anger you, and the anger will dissolve. Instead of destructive rage, you'll see creative possibilities.
Respond with determination to events that might otherwise cause you dismay. You'll find yourself powerfully motivated to move positively forward.
Respond with enthusiasm to tasks you might otherwise find tedious. You'll find a way to create new and lasting value.
Respond to life as if each moment is a grand experience, filled with positive and unique possibilities. And that's just how it will be.
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Today I learned from my colleauge Siswa Rizali UNDP Area Manager for Pidie, Bireun & Lhoksemawe, what is blog and how to use it. It is a wonderful way to keep in touch with the world and share the thoughts with like minded people. I hope it will open the way to come in touch with many wonderful people around the world.
In Picture, my colleagues Siswa & Afiffudeen.